“A peek into lives well lived.”
By: Ruby Srinarang
After watching Live to 100: Secrets of the Blue Zones (2023) on Netflix, I was inspired to find others in the community who’d lived to 100 (or rather, are close and still going strong), to ask them for some pearls of wisdom. Not only did I get insight into the secrets of their longevity, but they also gave me a peek into their lives well lived, their precious memories, and other priceless advice.
JANAK GAMBHIR
85 years old, Housewife
What are some of your earliest childhood memories? Any historical events that you remember?
I remember growing up in a loving and respectful environment, and being 3rd eldest among 10 siblings, I distinctly recall that I was my eldest brothers’ favourite sister, and a mother figure to the younger ones. I used to love singing, and in fact performed on stage in school and won first 1st prize, a THB 20 reward. The name of the song was “Nirbal Se Ladai Balwan Ki – Toofan aur Diya”, and I still remember the lyrics today!
I vividly recall the events when World War II started around the 1940s. I heard sirens, and my parents held our hands and showed us the way to hide safely. I wasn’t scared because I had my parents with me all the time. I also remember bad floods, which made my family temporarily relocate to a 2-3 storey Thai-style wooden house until the water receded.
What technological and social changes have you lived through?
There wasn’t much technology available when I was a child. Back then, news was communicated in the Indian community via announcements made at the Hindu Samaj Bangkok. In fact, the invention of the telephone occurred years after my wedding! It was a big deal to have black and white TV, which eventually gave way to colour TV. My kids got me a smartphone four or five years ago and showed me how to use WhatsApp so we could stay in touch. But beyond just making a connection, I discovered a new realm of knowledge. I’ve since developed a strong interest in, and curiosity about, Indian politics.
Those days, social gatherings were usually in people’s homes. We had ‘plathoo’ parties, later Tupperware parties, and then ‘penang pot’ parties. Wedding ceremonies were simpler then, with most held in homes and main rituals in the Hindu Samaj Bangkok. Of course, over the years, our social way of life has changed dramatically, and celebrations are more fancy and glamorous and celebrated more in hotels.
Can you share with us a favourite memory?
My fondest memory is the time when I was 16 years old and mother had to travel to India for a very important family matter. At that time, my youngest brother was only 4 months old, and my mother had to leave him with me for 7-8 months. I consider those months, when I took care of my brother instead of my mother, very precious. Today, I feel proud as he is a doctor and very successful in life.
What health and wellness tips would you like to share?
Being 85 years old and still alive today does not imply that my health and life have been perfect the entire time. However, looking back, a few things would have been helpful to me as I was dealing with health problems that arose at various points in my life. My physician suggested that I begin exercising by doing a few effective at-home workouts. Eating food prepared at home was crucial since one could regulate the ingredients and oil. One month after my husband passed away, I had a major accident at the age of 55. My ankle bones were crushed, and I had to undergo surgery and physiotherapy for six months before I could walk again. According to the doctor, I might not have recovered as much as I did if it hadn’t been for my prior fitness regimen. What’s kept me going on was my faith in God, and my two daughters and son-in-law. Till date, I recite the Hanuman Chalisa in the evening for one hour.
Any final reflections or advice?
If I could give anyone one piece of advice, it would be to prioritise yourself so you can take care of your family, and set an example to them on how to take care of themselves. This advice is especially intended for women. For the younger generation, it’s critical that you begin healthy habits early in life and stick with them. Most importantly, maintain a good family network and support system. Lastly, stay anchored by keeping God as part of your life.
MRS. SURINDER KAUR SACHDEV
88 years old, Housewife and Owner of Srisuwan Shop (Mukdaharn)
What were your earliest years like? Any historical events that you remember?
During my early years, my family lived together in a joint household, sharing a home with my cousins, uncles, and aunts. The atmosphere was notably serene, and I feel fortunate to have grown up in an environment devoid of negativity. Our upbringing emphasised sharing and caring for each other within the household. As a child, I cherished outdoor activities, particularly enjoying skipping and playing hopscotch with everyone in the family.
I distinctly remember the partition of India in 1947. A friend of my father, who was a police official, informed him that gunshots would be fired around 12pm, and residential areas would be set ablaze. He strongly advised my father to evacuate our place along with all family members. Since we didn’t have any means of transportation, my father initially called for a few rickshaws but ultimately decided that we should walk. A remarkable detail I recall is that a Muslim father assisted us, enabling our safe journey to Amritsar.
What are your thoughts on the technological and social changes you’ve lived through?
Back in our era, telephones were nonexistent, and we relied on trunk calls, requiring reservations made about a month in advance for long-distance communication. Letters were a significant means of correspondence, often read multiple times. This absence of modern conveniences, however, doesn’t diminish the quality of our past times. While the present offers unparalleled convenience, our contentment in those times was genuine.
Societal norms have undergone significant transformations. In the past, parents held a tighter grip on their children’s life decisions, including crucial matters like marriage and household budgeting. For instance, seeking permission from parents was customary when wanting to go out. It wasn’t merely about informing; it involved asking for permission, a distinction that is less pronounced today. Nowadays, there’s a shift, with children increasingly making decisions independently, which I see as having its own advantages. Nevertheless, adapting to changing times is crucial, and though it may take time to familiarise oneself with new cultural norms, going with the flow is always beneficial.
Can you share with us a favourite memory?
My fondest memories revolve around my husband, a genuinely good human being. I have a vivid memory of a time when I travelled to India with my father-in-law, leaving my husband behind in Thailand to manage our shop. After a few days, a gentleman approached my veranda and asked, “Do you know who has come to India with me?” In a matter of seconds, I heard someone calling my name, and there was my husband! That day holds a special place in my heart forever.
What health and wellness tips would you like to share?
Maintaining healthy eating habits and ensuring adequate sleep contribute to overall well-being. Striking a balance is crucial, and cherishing happy moments together plays a significant role. Over the years, not much has changed in my routine. I’d like to express my belief that I have the world’s best daughters-in-law. Both of them are incredibly considerate and wholeheartedly take care of me, alleviating any stress. My children consistently call me at least once a day, fulfilling the desires of any mother. I feel that what has evolved over time is my sense of happiness and contentment, which I attribute to my good health.
Any final reflections or advice?
I advise all young individuals to consider their parents’ opinions in any task they undertake. Additionally, I’d like to share a valuable piece of wisdom – everyone should acquire the skill of managing their finances, as we can never predict what the future holds for us.
MR. SHIVRAM CHUTISACHA (SACHDEV)
83 years old, Entrepreneur/Business Owner
What has your journey been like from your earlier years to now? What were the most significant historical events in your memory?
After leaving present-day Pakistan because of the partition, I recall engaging in various sports and assisting my father in the confectionery business. My favourite subject in school was Thai history, and the history of King Rama IX left the most profound impact on me. In honour of his memory, I even became a monk at a wat.
The most pivotal incident that left a lasting impression on me occurred in 1984 when our business suffered a substantial setback because of the economic downturn. Despite the challenging circumstances, we persevered, expressing gratitude for our recovery and managed to regain our footing.
As I mentioned, my family had to escape from present-day Pakistan during the India-Pakistan Partition in 1947. The harrowing experience involved my siblings and me being hastily placed on trains to evade the escalating violence – a story that unfolds over a considerable span of time.
What technological and social changes have you lived through?
I began with black-and-white televisions, and now I find myself using YouTube on my phone, witnessing a multitude of technological transformations throughout my lifetime. The most astonishing change occurred when my children introduced me to computers and explained how I could showcase and sell any product online. Initially sceptical, I’ve effectively adapted to evolving communication technologies. I take pride in my ability to independently enjoy watching vintage Hindi songs on YouTube and engage in video calls with family and friends. On the other hand, in my opinion, the prevalence of social media has led to a culture where everything seems to be done for appearance. Genuine love and happiness are becoming increasingly rare.
What are some significant moments or memories in your life?
My kids attended a boarding school in India, so my wife and I would make regular visits to see them. Witnessing the happiness on their faces brought me immense joy back then, and those memories continue to bring me joy today.
Due to the nature of my business, I had the opportunity to extensively travel around the globe. Among my most cherished travel memories are experiences in Brazil and Colombia. During my stay in Brazil, I was fortunate enough to witness the renowned Brazilian Carnival from the comfort of my hotel room. In Colombia, the atmosphere felt so familiar that some people mistook me for a local and conversed with me in Spanish!
What health and wellness tips would you like to share?
I have been actively involved in exercise since my youth, enjoying sports, practicing yoga, and maintaining an overall active lifestyle. To this day, I dedicate around 1 to 1.5 hours daily to exercise. In my perspective, the health culture during my upbringing was more robust, with individuals being conscientious about their well-being and proactively taking measures to maintain good health. Nowadays, there seems to be a shift, with people prioritising their careers and jobs, often opting for quick fixes like pills rather than actively managing their health.
Any final reflections or advice?
I would advise husbands and wives to cultivate a genuine love for each other, as this love will naturally extend to their children. In our own experience, my wife and I ensured that our grandchildren, as they were growing up, left their phones in a designated basket when visiting us, promoting genuine conversation and connection.
MR HUKAM SINGH LUTHRA
81 years old, Manufacturer and Wholesaler of Lace Fabric
What were your earliest years like? Any historical events that you remember?
From a young age, I possessed a natural inclination for adventure, always seeking to explore and discover new things. Despite my limited academic background, I had a strong affinity for Mathematics, and I harboured a deep passion for marketing and always aspired to become a successful businessman.
The partition of India and Pakistan had a profound effect on my life. Witnessing extensive violence and encountering numerous casualties at the tender age of 4-5 was incredibly challenging to comprehend. My family and I managed to escape first from Pakistan and later from Calcutta to Penang, navigating through numerous challenges and facing considerable difficulties during the process. The entire experience was marked by hardships and struggles.
What is your take on the technological and social changes through the decades?
I’ve transitioned from an era with no television to the introduction of black and white TVs to the current prevalence of smart TVs; from VHS tapes to no longer relying on physical media. The evolution also extended to communication. While adapting to these changes posed challenges, with the support of my children and grandchildren, I successfully embraced these advancements.
Societal norms have evolved positively. In the past, women were typically confined to domestic duties and childcare, while men took on the role of breadwinners. Nowadays, both genders share equal responsibilities. Today’s children receive a higher level of education compared to the past, and they also enjoy greater freedom compared to our generation.
What are some significant moments or memories in your life?
The most cherished moment that still brings me immense joy today is when I first became a parent, and then when I first became a grandparent. Holding my son and grandchild in my arms each time filled me with joy and excitement. Among my fondest childhood memories are the moments spent playing and cuddling with my grandfather. Another delightful experience from my teenage years was the day I made my first sale of two yards of cloth, a moment overflowing with joy and happiness.
What health and wellness tips would you like to share?
I continue to engage in daily exercise as I have always been passionate about sports. About 26 years ago, I experienced a heart attack and underwent bypass surgery, which led to a temporary halt in my exercise routine. However, I maintained a positive mindset throughout. After a recovery period of 3-4 years post-surgery, I resumed running six days a week for an hour each day. I continued running until the age of 75, and now, I incorporate a daily one-hour walk both in the morning and evening into my routine.
Any final reflections or advice?
Place a high priority on maintaining a healthy lifestyle through a balanced and nutritious diet, along with a consistent exercise routine. Proactively investing in self-care can result in enhanced physical and mental well-being, ultimately elevating your overall quality of life.
MR. RACHPAL SINGH NARULA
89 years old, Owner of Dao Siam Textile
What are some of your earliest childhood memories? Any historical events that you remember?
Among my earliest memories is watching my father leave for the gurudwara at first light every day. In essence, the Gurudwara Sahib was the centre of our existence. I vividly recall the events on 8 December 1940, during World War II. A bomb was dropped at the Hua Lamphong train station, which I witnessed from my house’s rooftop. We broke into the nearby bunker for cover when we heard about the bomb threats. Back then, we were all like family, our neighbours and friends. Throughout the conflict, we all looked out for and loved one another.
What are some technological and social changes you’ve lived through?
I’m most impressed by the fact that a tiny device in your hand can connect everyone on the planet – it’s truly a miracle. I’m always interested in learning new things, so I make an effort to become proficient with the technology I have access to. With my phone in my hand, it feels like the entire world is at my fingertips.
As for social changes? Interreligious weddings have become the norm. Young people are less interested in religious events than they used to be. Parents are no longer as involved in their children’s lives as they once were. Men and women both work nowadays, and they enjoy equal rights, unlike in the past.
What are some significant moments or memories in your life?
One of my favourite memories is I got the opportunity to meet His Majesty King Rama IX, 50 years ago. I’ve never felt more honoured in my life. Another favourite is travelling with my parents and wife, visiting historically significant gurudwaras in Pakistan and India in 1960. It was a three-month journey, one that would have taken three weeks nowadays.
What health and wellness tips would you like to share?
My morning regimen includes yoga, exercises, herbal tea, and visits to the gurudwara. I have a routine that I follow every single day. These are things I have done with my family and friends, and it brings me joy every day. Even though some of them are no longer around, I maintain this ritual and remember the happy moments we had together.
Any final reflections or advice?
I’ve always believed in maintaining a grateful mindset. The first wealth is health, and the second wealth is gratitude. My advice would be to always stay humble and show reverence for elders. While younger people can move more quickly, older people are more familiar with the path.
MRS. SURJIT KAUR AHLUWALIA
90 years old, Housewife currently living in Singapore
What were your earliest years like? Any historical events that you remember?
In my youth, with four sisters, I often faced blame when disagreements occurred among them, a pattern that continued throughout my childhood. Though unjust, I accepted it, recognising the responsibilities that came with being the elder sibling. Growing up, there was a priest named Giani Gurbaskh Singh who authored books containing short stories, and I found solace in reading these stories during my free time.
Known for my academic prowess, I used to provide private tutoring without charging any fees, and even after marriage, I continued teaching Punjabi for many years, imparting knowledge in the gurudwara.
Undoubtedly, the most impactful event in my life occurred during the India-Pakistan partition. Originating from Sialkot, Pakistan, my family had to relocate to Amritsar, India, due to the partition. I vividly recall this traumatic experience when I was just 14 years old. Unfortunately, I lost my elder brother during the migration, and to this day, we remain uncertain about whether he perished or simply lost contact with us.
The journey began with our stay in a refugee camp before being transported to India by train. The train carriages were marked by bloodstains on the floors and walls, remnants of the strife between Indians and Pakistanis who had traversed the route. The memories of this harrowing experience still bring tears to my eyes.
What is your take on the current technological and social landscape?
Technological advancements have been remarkable. I recall a time when our only electronic device was a bulky radio. In the 1960s, we acquired a black and white television, a significant upgrade. Despite these developments, I’m not well-versed in internet usage. Smartphones, while undoubtedly beneficial, have negative aspects. For instance, I observe young families in restaurants, each engrossed in their phones or iPads, neglecting interpersonal communication.
Singapore’s population is predominantly Chinese, followed by Malays and then Indians. Living in Singapore means being surrounded by diverse cultures, each with its own set of traditions and ceremonies. Personally, I never encountered any issues with this cultural diversity. While some individuals may face challenges, my experience growing up in Singapore was harmonious, with mutual recognition and respect for the various cultures, traditions, and celebrations.
What’s one precious memory you’d like to share?
During my youth, I possessed a melodious voice and engaged in the practice of kirtan. Every Wednesday afternoon, a gathering of ladies would assemble at the Central Gurudwara (Istri Sat Sang Sabha), and I actively participated by leading kirtan. This involvement brought me immense joy and earned me respect from the other ladies in the group.
What is your wellness regimen?
I don’t follow any particular regimen. Although I’m not a strict vegetarian, I do maintain a vegetarian diet. I don’t engage in structured exercise, but running a household is a form of physical activity in itself. I attribute my longevity to the fact that I prioritise maintaining happiness. I believe that many diseases and illnesses originate from the gut, and the mind has the power to heal. Consequently, I make a conscious effort to stay happy, and my greatest source of joy comes from the wellbeing of my children and their families.
Any final reflections or advice?
The younger generation today has a different perspective, and even parents have evolved in their thinking. Adaptation is crucial. My advice to young individuals is to listen to your parents, and to parents, listen to your kids – truly understand each other’s perspectives. It requires a bit of compromise from both sides. While I may not consider myself wise enough to impart profound wisdom, I strongly advise the younger generation to be cautious and wise about their associations. I believe one can gauge a person’s character by observing the five friends they spend the most time with. Additionally, engage in good deeds and maintain faith in your religion.
